I'm stuck at the part where I am still mean to myself, because I have to work and I cannot lose my job. Otherwise, I lose income and health insurance. If I had more support, or a spouse and their health insurance/income, I wouldn't be in fight or flight, I would be able to feel more secure and relaxed. I have no safety net, so it just feels terrifying all the time. Maybe this is different, but no one talks about it.
It makes totally sense for the fear of losing work and income to be terrifying. Maybe for you, the kindness comes when you tell yourself “wow, it’s so stressful to feel this bad but need to work. Anyone in this situation would be struggling.”
Argh I relate so much to this. What a great article. I've been using self-meany talk my whole life and it's only in the past year, since being diagnosed with a chronic illness, that I've desperately tried to stop that, as I can see and feel how destructive it is on the body. It's taking a lot of work, both constant self reflection and therapy but I can actually feel a difference in myself these days. I have more energy and my nervous system feels the calmest it's ever been. It can be done 🥰
I'm stuck at the part where I am still mean to myself, because I have to work and I cannot lose my job. Otherwise, I lose income and health insurance. If I had more support, or a spouse and their health insurance/income, I wouldn't be in fight or flight, I would be able to feel more secure and relaxed. I have no safety net, so it just feels terrifying all the time. Maybe this is different, but no one talks about it.
It makes totally sense for the fear of losing work and income to be terrifying. Maybe for you, the kindness comes when you tell yourself “wow, it’s so stressful to feel this bad but need to work. Anyone in this situation would be struggling.”
Argh I relate so much to this. What a great article. I've been using self-meany talk my whole life and it's only in the past year, since being diagnosed with a chronic illness, that I've desperately tried to stop that, as I can see and feel how destructive it is on the body. It's taking a lot of work, both constant self reflection and therapy but I can actually feel a difference in myself these days. I have more energy and my nervous system feels the calmest it's ever been. It can be done 🥰
Thanks so much for this thoughtful comment, Amanda 💗 glad to hear you’re feeling similar similar benefits from engaging in self compassion
This is so helpful I’ve saved some quotes to stick up everywhere so I remember them thank you so much
I’m so glad! And I really appreciate you letting me know